One of the most rewarding relationships in my life so far was the wonderful relationship that I had with my "Little Sister" Ashley. I had seen the wonderful experience my younger brother Joe had with his "Big Brother" as a child and I wanted to give the same experience to another child. Ashley and I became Little and Big in 1997 and we had a wonderful year with one another. I was 21 and she was 7.
We were the perfect "match". We had very similar personalities and likes/dislikes, we even resembled one another. We often got mistaken for "real" siblings and on rare occasion people thought I was her MOTHER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Um, no, can't say I had a child at 14.
We loved hanging out with one another. Our two most favorite things were hanging out at the mall together and getting our pictures taken in the mall photo booth -
(OMG!!!!!!!!!!! The days of plaid shirts!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!)
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and we loved playing tennis together. Believe it or not, I am actually really good at tennis ( still love it! ) and was on my high school team until having to have a full time job got in the way. Well that and being editor of my school newspaper took up WAY TOO MUCH time.
I was honored that Ashley was one of our flower girls in our wedding -
My wedding day was a bittersweet day for Ashley and I. It was a beautiful and special day having her there but we both knew what was coming after the wedding. Two months after the wedding day, I moved to Rolla, MO to be with Kevin while he finished up his last few semesters of college at Univ of Missouri at Rolla. Kevin and I had enough of the long distance dating thing, we had done it for 3 years, so once we were married, we were SOOO ready to finally be in the same town together. Ashley and I stayed in touch as much as possible but soon after the big move, we lost touch. Ashley began having more family problems and I was unable to find out her new address. It broke my heart.
( I know! I know! GASP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! to the horrible window treatment and chair!!!! OMG!!!! It wasn't our stuff, believe me!!!! Kevin and I had to find a furnished apartment for just that summer and that was literally the only place in town for us. Ever try to find a furnished apartment without having to sign a year lease?! It isn't easy, trust me! Ugly furniture or not, it was our first place together and we were very happy there . That's all that really matters anyway ).
I will never forget Ashley and I always find myself wondering what she is up to now, where she is, and more importantly HOW she is. It is so hard to believe, I am now 30, married, with my 3rd baby on the way and she is now 16 and DRIVING! We were once 21 and 7. Wow.
Big Brother Big Sister has always been in my life. It was there for my brother when he was a child. I had a wonderful relationship with my "Little" Ashley. I did ALL of my presentations, papers, and projects on the BB BS agency my senior year of college. I almost did my senior year internship at their agency. I almost had a job with BB BS as a case manager a short time ago. I have a feeling my relationship with them is never going to go away. It is such a huge passion of mine. A passion that will ALWAYS be there. It will never go away. Never.
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I honestly think I got just as much, if not more, out of my BB BS relationship than Ashley did.
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